I had one of my awesome grown up epiphanies this morning when the phone rang and we found out someone we knew was having their baby. It was like a chain reaction of little moments of enlightenment really. Where you imagine yourself in someones shoes because their life differs from yours so vastly. It made me appreciate what I have going on in our crazy home all the more seriously. I contemplated not blogging about this because it may rock the boat, make waves, cause a stir etc. But I am fairly tired of watching my mouth fearing misinterpretation. I say what I mean and there aren't lines to read between. And if people don't like it, don't read it ( and/or get over yourself). Anyhow, I was thinking about how hard it would be to have a baby solo. Touchy subject for my ladies who are single moms I know. But I mean deliver a baby without the daddio, sperm donor, father etc ( sometimes men bail, which hardly makes them men. But often they are at least there to be traumatized by the birth). That is such an emotional time and having that partner there to look at and know they are the very closest to understanding the power of bringing this human into the world, because they helped make that human. I can't imagine not having that at that moment. I think it would add a complexity to the emotional roller coaster that I know I can't fathom. It really starts off that baby & mommy bond in a whole other light.
I know there are some baby mommas that do it all themselves (and I know there are some that only think they do it all themselves). I have watched a couple of my girls do everything but move a useless spouse out of the way to clean around him while total bedlam ensues in the vicinity as he get annoyed having to lean to watch tv around all of them. I am not afraid of those knuckle draggers getting upset at this post because I am fairly confident they can't even read. Being grateful that I have a team mate is an understatement. Having a baby single is a very brave adventure and I congratulate that. I wish her luck and hope the best for the incredible life she brings into this world. Being a parent is awesome and wonderful and challenging to say the least.
And yes, I mean congratulations when I say it. There is no back handed compliment happening here or sarcasm. When I say something as heavy as congratulations for keeping this baby, choosing to nurture a new life and deciding to embark on a fast track to adulthood with unparallelled resposiblity but also rewards, I mean it wholeheartedly. I truly believe you will be an excellent mother.
That's one doodle that can't be undid homeskillet. Good choice friend.